Prolonged grief: when mourning does not ease
लंबा शोक (प्रोलॉन्ग्ड ग्रीफ़)
Grief after losing someone close is a normal human response, and it differs across people and cultures. For most, the pain slowly softens.
For some, intense grief continues to dominate daily life long after the loss. This is called prolonged grief disorder and responds to specific therapy.
Medically reviewed by Dr. Kuldeep Budania, MBBS, MD Psychiatry
Common symptoms
- Intense longing for, or constant preoccupation with, the person who died
- Difficulty accepting the death; feeling that part of oneself has died
- Deep emotional pain, guilt, anger or blame
- Avoiding reminders, or being unable to engage in life or plans
- Feeling life is meaningless without them
Causes
- A sudden, violent or unexpected death; death of a child or partner
- A very close or dependent relationship with the person
- Lack of support and other stresses after the loss
Risk factors
- Previous depression or anxiety
- Multiple losses in a short time
- Being unable to take part in rituals or say goodbye
How it is diagnosed
- Grief that persists for an unusually long time (ICD-11: at least six months after the loss) and clearly exceeds cultural and religious norms
- Significant difficulty in daily functioning
- Checking for depression, PTSD and suicide risk
Classification: ICD-11 6B42Prolonged grief disorder is new in ICD-11; ICD-10 has no specific code.
Treatment options
- 1Grief-focused psychotherapy is the main treatment
- 2Treating associated depression, anxiety or sleep problems, with medicines if needed
- 3Rebuilding routines and social connections
Psychotherapy and counselling
- Prolonged grief therapy: telling the story of the loss, working with memories and planning a meaningful future
- Gradual re-engagement with avoided places and activities
Guidance for family
- Keep talking about the person when the bereaved wants to — silence can feel lonely
- Offer practical help, especially in the months after rituals end
When to see a psychiatrist
- Grief still stops you from functioning many months after the loss
- Thoughts of wanting to die to be with the person — seek help the same day
Thoughts of self-harm or a medical emergency? Call Tele-MANAS 14416 (24×7, free) or 112.
Free self-assessment
A short screening in Hindi or English. Private — nothing is saved. Screening does not establish a diagnosis.
Frequently asked questions
Is there a "right" time to stop grieving?
No. Grief changes but may never fully end. The concern is when it remains so intense that life cannot continue.
Will therapy make me forget them?
No. Therapy helps you carry their memory with less pain, not forget them.
Are medicines needed?
Not for grief itself, but they can help if depression, anxiety or severe sleep problems are present.
Help is available — confidential, in Hindi or English.
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