Result day can be one of the most stressful days in a young person's life. How family members react matters a great deal.
A disappointing result is a setback, not the end of a future.
Key concepts
- Separate the result from the child's worth
- There are many paths to a good career
- Watch closely in the days after results
Symptoms and signs
- Withdrawal, crying, not eating
- Statements like 'I have let everyone down' or 'there is no point'
- Anger or blame
Causes
- High expectations and comparison
- Investment of years of preparation
- Social pressure and relatives' questions
Risk factors
- Previous depression or self-harm
- Living away from family in coaching hubs
- Harsh criticism at home
Evidence-based management
- Parents: say 'We love you no matter what; we will plan together'
- Limit relatives' calls and social media comparisons for a few days
- Discuss options calmly after a few days: re-attempt, alternate courses
- Seek counselling if distress persists
When to seek professional help
- Any talk of suicide — do not leave them alone; call Tele-MANAS 14416 or 112
- Low mood lasting more than two weeks
- Parents can book a consultation first to discuss concerns before involving the child
Frequently asked questions
Should my child drop a year?
It is a personal decision; consider the child's wishes, wellbeing and alternatives with a counsellor.
How do we handle relatives' questions?
Prepare a short reply such as 'We are proud of the effort and planning the next step' and change the topic.
Medical references
Guidelines and official sources used for this article.
- Mental health of adolescents — fact sheet. World Health Organization.
- Tele-MANAS — National Tele Mental Health Programme. Ministry of Health and Family Welfare, Government of India.
- Author
- Dr. Kuldeep Budania, MBBS, MD Psychiatry
- Medical reviewer
- Dr. Kuldeep Budania, MD Psychiatry
- Last reviewed
This article is for general information and is not a substitute for personal medical advice.
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